Parents want the best for their children. They try to guide them and teach them everything they know so that they grow in a healthy way and so that they have enough tools to be able to manage the world in the future.
The problem arises when adults inadvertently raise children in such a way that they allow themselves to be influenced by them. That is, parents educating their children do not realize that the child who is easily influenced at home, can drag this weakness to other environments in which he lives. Nevertheless, it is important to help the child to be himself and not be influenced by others.
The first years in a child's life are key to a healthy self-esteem. It is important to foster in children the self-confidence and sense of worth necessary for them to achieve autonomy and independence. In this way, they will be able to become themselves, they will not be influenced by others and they will achieve success in their lives.
When children are young we meet those who want to do everything 'alone' and they are so 'independent' that in the vast majority of cases they make their parents lose patience.
On the other hand, many others allow themselves to be guided without objecting and without asserting their opinions. This attitude of children can promote an easier process for parents in raising their children, but in the long run it will be more harmful for the child since they may be repressing their feelings and in the future this will make them more manipulable .
In preadolescence, children feel the need to integrate into peer groups. It is when peer pressure appears and it will be the main element to activate influence and manipulation.
- In children who are independent from a young age with an innate capacity for innate leadership or who have been educated in autonomy, they will be able to subdue others who are not when they belong to peer groups.
- In those children accustomed to being led and influenced by their parents, when they pretend to be part of the group of equals, they will be influenced by the ideas of the group leader to be accepted.
Despite the values that the child receives at home, or that the influences that the child receives in his peer group may be good or bad, parents must teach their children to express their own criteria and promote their self-esteem in the following way:
- Encourage your sense of belonging within the family so that you can positively value what you have.
- Educate firmly and flexibly. It is important that your children know that at home there are well-established rules and limits, but if everyone agrees, they will be flexible at specific times.
- Value their opinions and respect them.
- Promote adequate communication so that you feel the security of being able to tell your problems and clarify your doubts.
- If the child is carried away by bad influences, you should make him see that his actions will have negative consequences.
- Teach the child to negotiate and develop your leadership.
- Let the child know that in addition to deciding for himself, he can count on his parents at all times.
- Promotes the individuality and autonomy of the child. For this, parents will be an example of their children and show the importance that each one has as a unique person.
- Avoid confronting your friends. If their friends are criticized or tried to alienate them from their group, they can become more uncompromising and defensive.
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