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Adolescence is one of the most difficult stages for both parents and young people themselves as they begin to experience numerous hormonal, physical and psychological changes. All these changes can negatively influence the self-esteem of adolescents and will lead to changes in behavior either in the form of apathy, sadness, or rebellion. But, How can parents deal with rebellion in adolescence?
Rebellion will be totally normal behavior at this stage. Thus, we can see that:
- Children prefer to spend more time alone or with their friends rather than with their parents.
- They identify with other tastes and these are contrary to those imposed by their parents.
- They do not assume responsibilities or rules.
- They act without thinking about the consequences of their actions.
They are all behaviors that indicate that the child has become a rebellious adolescent and that adults must deal with patience, authority and with a lot of left hand.
There are several factors that can be the cause of rebellion in adolescence. Among them:
- Psychological and biological factors. There are many physical changes that children go through in adolescence, which can cause them to be aggressive. In addition, to all these biological changes is added a period of psychological instability that hinders their social relationships.
- Detachment. This is the moment where the young person is looking for their own identity and autonomy. He feels that he is no longer a child and that is why he thinks that he can make his own decisions and make his own friends. Thus, there will be a distancing from their main attachment figures towards a close relationship with peer groups.
- Intensity in all emotions. In this young stage he experiences all the changes that occur with a much greater intensity. A change of house, an argument with a friend, or any conflict situation can cause a mixture of diffuse feelings that the adolescent still does not know how to handle and infuriates him.
- The family structure. Sometimes the adolescent may feel that parents are absent (caused by ineffective work-life balance). On the other hand, the young person may perceive injustices due to the family treatment of the siblings where one of them benefits more than the other.
Parents have to behave naturally in the face of the rebellious behaviors of their teenagers. They have to bear in mind that it is a normal period in their maturation and psychological development. Parents should consider:
- Be communicative. Young people are, on many occasions, disoriented and sad, and therefore it is important that they can trust their parents or caregivers to communicate their fears and afflictions. It is important to listen to what the young person has to say and, above all, that communication is not based on shouting.
- Be empathetic. The prohibitions, the rigid limits, .. They will not work. You have to be very careful. Better to understand their point of view. Being open will make the young person see their parents more closely, and as someone who can be trusted.
- Be democratic. An authoritarian and unjust parent usually does not achieve the expected effect. Limits and rules must be balanced and realistic. Otherwise the adolescent will try to rebel even more.
- Negotiate. Parents should never give in to the rebellious son's blackmail. Nor to prohibit everything you ask for. Parents have to select some aspects where they can be more permissive, such as putting on the clothes they like, decorating the room,… and negotiating with them.
If the adolescent's rebellious behavior could put his life or emotional stability at risk, it is important to see a specialist. It is possible that the adolescent may present the so-called masked depression (some caused by bullying).
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