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Educational consequences against punishments in children. What mistakes do we make


Today it is known that the use of punishment when a child does something wrong, it doesn't always help improve behavior. Parents want them to learn from what has happened, but sanctioning does not always happen.

It is because of that every day more families use educational consequences so that their children develop self-control in relation to their behaviors. If you paint the wall, you will have to clean it. It starts from the basis that the other is an equal being, with the capacity for reflection, repentance and reparation. The problem is that sometimes we make mistakes when trying to carry them out, causing in some moments, the opposite result to what we expected. We tell you what mistakes we make in terms of educational consequences against punishments in children.

What are the most common mistakes when trying to correct our child's behavior through educational consequences?

1. The way we address them. Imposing them in a bad way to do something as a consequence of their behavior sometimes causes children to rebel more, refusing to do it and finally entering a greater conflict. That is why you have to be patient and explain in a natural tone what to do. We can help you start your task so you can see how it is done and progressively leave you alone.

2. Sometimes we are not clear at the time of indicating which are the rules and which are the consequences. We have to be careful not to confuse our children and that there is stability in our way of acting.

3. We postpone the consequence and we forget that it has to be related to the conduct performed. If we let the behavior pass and put the consequence later, it will lose its effectiveness.

4. We tend to say exaggerated things that we know we will not do. You won't watch TV anymore, or I won't play with you again. We have to be careful and think before we speak so that we are not the ones who take away authority.

5. We forget that we are the examples of our children. We don't want our children to yell, but we constantly yell at them. We want them to listen to us, but many times they call us and if we are involved in a task, we take time to answer. We have to think about our own behavior because a very important part of childhood learning is based on imitation.

There are times when we do not have enough conviction to carry out the consequence, or we are not firm enough for our children to understand the importance of assuming their mistakes. That is why we have to think in the value of our way of acting in the long term, and we stay only in the present moment. It is essential to realize that the education of our children is built on the small decisions we make every day.

This way of educating requires more time and more patience, but authority is gained. If you respect your children, they will respect you. Doing things by force or exerting our situation of power, only generates discomfort in others and there is little capacity for learning when we feel that way.

Therefore, the important thing is to focus on behavior and not disqualify our children, thus avoiding damaging their self-concept and sending them our love even if they made a mistake.

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